I cannot tell you the number of times I have heard that there is no accounting for resiliency. “Some babies are just more resilient than others, as are children.” The Diathesis Model suggest that a genetically fragile child may be able to withstand less trauma, while a child of strong genetic stock can handle more trauma. But this is one way of hiding a traumatized child from our view by leaving open the possibility that the symptoms at which we are looking result from weak genes because the child is doing quite poorly. We don’t think that the parenting is necessarily bad. Hogwash! When we already understand that no two children even in the same family have the same experiences or even the same parents, we can understand that no two people have the same environment or history. As children differ in a family, it makes no sense to blame it on genes when their different backgrounds account for everything.

The Resiliency Spectrum: Two Brothers